NICE BICEPS BUT….ARE YOU MENTALLY FIT?
You are probably asking yourself what does Mentally fit even mean? You know well what being physically fit means, what it looks like and what it is good for… you know being fit requires work, is good for your health, might help you move and play better in life…but mentally fit? Hmmm not so much.
Everyone knows that someone, the person that always seems to be on top, in control of stuff. Who can deal with situations pretty smooth and doesn’t lose it for the small problems in life. Yeah, Johnny, that guy… that finds the positive on every thing that happens to him, even if that means to get laid off from work, break up with his girlfriend and snap his surfboard in 10ft surf.
No doubt Johnny has been working very hardand unnoticed for a while and not really getting payed an hourly rate for it but seems like it pays off to him since he is living life to the most without letting circumstances stop him. He makes it look easy.
You could think, I could do it too if I knew the tricks. So here is a little insight. This work is permanent, with no real holidays and even though you don’t make any money its very rewarding being your own boss.
Becoming mentally fit requires getting your hands dirty and digging into the learning patterns and beliefs that you grew up with. Some of those beliefs are the base for the core values that power your behaviour today, and you need to find out what these core values are if you want to make some changes.
It requires you to be completely open and honest with yourself and review areas of your life where you have been slack or elusive. That could be emotions, feelings or communication. Being mentally strong does not mean you don’t feel or don’t show how you feel, it means you acknowledge how you feel and choose how to act about it.
So when Johnny got laid off work and broke up with his girlfriend, he didn’t give to feeling sorry for himself and dwell in the past, he didn’t blame the girl or himself for whatever situation happened in the relationship… he set himself the goal of going back to surfing every day since he was not working anymore and used his free time to reconnect with friends and family, that were his support network in his emotional transition.
And then yeah, surf was good one day, and Johnny snapped his board out there… Again, he didn’t crumble, although he felt scared at the start since he was dealing with this unpredictable situation, he used his physical and mental fitness to control his emotions and saw this as a challenge instead of a problem, he knew he had been training consistently for a while and he was positive he could make it out. This positive focus allowed him to put his energy in the right place and remain calm and focused, he took the appropriate actions at the right time and made it back to shore.
Being mentally fit is very similar to being physically fit. It requires commitment, discipline, staying positive and setting realistic goals. It takes time and it is not always comfortable, since we deal with situations from our past everyday and everyday is different.
It puts you out of your comfort zone enough that you get to know where your limits are and that is the first thing that will pave the road of growth. And growth brings change.
It helps to get rid of self imposed mental obstacles that could be preventing you from reaching goals or your full potential in any situation. Allows you to be productive and creative with your own time and gives you back the power of celebrating your own victories…. And this is the true meaning of success.
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